Some things, you don’t resolve them. You don’t get an answer and you accept that and you move on and you leave the thing unresolved because it’s okay to do that in this imperfect world.
And other times it’s not okay and you have to resolve it and if you don’t resolve it then you know that that’s a problem and that it should be resolved, that leaving it unresolved is going to cause you a problem later in life. You’re going to feel bad; maybe others are going to feel bad. It’s something that has to be done.
The question is, how do you decide whether a particular problem should be left alone or resolved?
In The Apple Tree 